FOSTERING | KIN STORIES
We asked Kay Lorentz, the mother to our children, what it means to be a mom. Here goes:
“I think some of the biggest lessons I have learnt about being a mom and about what I need to do to be the best I can be is that I need to live my life from the seat of love and service. Just as God’s mercy is new every morning and He is faithful always that I do not get weary in doing good. Good in motherhood means service and that service is often sacrificial. It also requires that I know when service must stop and I must be there for my child and that is a balance that is not always easy to get, but as I have grown I have realised what helps me get the balance right is to not fear man… yes, do not worry about what anyone but God and my husband thinks of my best. That best may mean my house is a mess today, but that does not reflect on the state of my relationships with my children. They come before service.
“I love the little people growing in my care now with all their gifts and talents.”
The other thing that has been very important for me is to accept each of my children as an individual with a wealth of gifting to discover, they need shaping and development in these areas… but as I take time to get to know them they present themselves as amazing creative beings who have a gift to give the world. This has meant to me that I allowed my kids to be “weird” I let them have an opinion, chose what they want to wear, try and find out what their talents are before I impose my dreams on them. This freedom to be you approach to my kids has helped them know what they like, what they want to do with life and present with surprises in their lives as they go far beyond what I had hoped and dreamed for them.
With the new little ones in my life now I am trying the same accept and discover strategy… I love the little people growing in my care now with all their gifts and talents.”
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”